DadsNews   February, 2006   Volume 2,  Number 3 

Ken Mossman MFA, CPCC, PCC              518.580.0550

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In this issue:

  1. Greetings!
  2. Feature: Dragons, Dragons and More Dragons
  3. Quote of the Month
  4. Happenings...


Happy February!

Not much snow up here in Upstate NY...  In fact, as I gaze out the office window, I have a great view of a frozen, brown lawn with the occasional ice or snow patch.

As a skier, I find this all less than optimal.  As a father of a budding skier - I find this less than optimal...

We've been seeking adventure in other places, creating from what's around us, finding surprises in odd places.  All of which brings us to this month's feature: "Dragons, Dragons and More Dragons."

I shall not belabor the intro.  Have at it!



PS: As always, I'm grateful to you for spreading the DadsNews to friends and fathers the world over...  Thanks!

Dragons, Dragons and More Dragons

OK, so I've been on the "boys and education" rant for weeks now.

I keep running into folks who are only too willing to pour gasoline on my happy little fire .  The flame is growing rather hotter on one end and settling in to a low roar on the other...

I sat next to the mother of another 7 year-old on a flight to Washington, DC last month.  As sometimes happens when one flies from a smallish local airport, Heather and I discovered that we operate in the same communities and know many of the same people.

After an hour or so of good conversation, I discovered that I'm not exactly alone in my frustration with the world of eduaction.  (Indeed, after last month's "DadsNews," I received several messages - some offering resources for home or alternative schooling options.)  When I returned from DC, Danielle greeted me with the January 30th issue of Newsweek.  Boys and education, it appears, are suddenly hot topics...

After a bit o' deliberation, soul-searching, some wonderful coaching from the class I led in DC, and getting in touch with my own inner 7 year-old, (he was easy to access - not a whole lot of surprise there...) I came up with a plan so blindingly brilliant that, upon closer inspection, turned out to be just what Cai had been asking for all along: Play now, work later.


Bang the drum for another "Duh!" moment in the history of effective parenting...  In case you happen to be as slow on the uptake as me, let me toss out the rare "how to" message I had been receiving and pushing away.  Here 'tis: "Listen to your kids."

Even if it has to do with homework?


Even when notes are coming home from the teacher?


Even though it's cold outside and getting dark so early?


Even when it is suggested that we put off the homework to draw pictures or build dragons..?

Yes, especially when there are dragons to be built!

Cai and his pal (who has since melted..)

"...I'm a control freak..."

We let go of our rather unconscious rules and regulations around homework requirements a few weeks ago.  We turned up the flame under post-school play time.  An objective observer might even say that we handed the reins of control over to our son.  That observer would score high points for their powers of observation...

Tough to admit: "My name is Ken, and I'm a control freak..."

Fortunately, I'm also a fun-pig...

Hypothetically speaking, of course, I could say that there is something to letting go of trying to force an outcome for someone else.  If I were to point in that general direction, I may even be so bold as to propose that letting go of said outcome could possibly yield ease and - dare I say - fun for all...

I don't have all the scientific evidence on releasing attachments and flowing in the energetic eddys of 7 year-olds, but I do know this: For a week or so, we had a twenty-five foot dragon gracing our front lawn.  Cai has been choosing his after-school shots for the past several weeks now, and homework time has gotten much easier for everyone.  We have a father-son art studio in the basement, and there is charcoal and pastel dust all over the place.  We draw or play or go outside for an adventure to nowhere for a while, then we do homework.  There are drawings of dragons on my desk, drawings of dragons on Cai's play-tables, drawings of dragons in Cai's art folder that he brings home from school...

Even though there are dragons showing up all over the place, the dragons that used to battle over homework and rules appear to have flown off.

We all seem to be breathing easier and smiling more.  Only problem now is the lack of snow.

We want to build another dragon...

He, too, appears to be smiling...

Quote of the Month

"In dwelling, live close to the ground. In thinking, keep to the simple. In conflict, be fair and generous. In governing, don't try to control. In work, do what you enjoy. In family life, be completely present."
Lao Tzu


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o Take home a conceptual framework, language, exercises and tools to apply this work in tangible ways—in your view of yourself, in your relationships, and at work.

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Image of a Mobius Strip

Mobius Strip Defined: a continuous closed surface with only one side; formed from a rectangular strip by rotating one end 180 degrees and joining it with the other end.
If the Mobius Strip above were a strip of paper and you placed a pencil on its center and traced the length of the strip, you would discover that your line would eventually meet itself without ever lifting the pencil.
Imagine that one “side” of the Mobius Strip represents the Masculine; the other “side” represents the Feminine. Notice how they blend into each other naturally, with no beginning and no end…


Course Dates: March 31 – April 2, 2006
• Hours: Friday and Saturday, 10 AM to 6 PM
• Sunday, 9 AM to 5 PM
• Location: Longfellow's Inn, Saratoga Springs, NY.
• For hotel reservations, call: (518) 587-0108, and mention "Third Way Workshop" to receive special room rates
• Nearest Airport: Albany, NY
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Coaching News

It's a New Year.  Time to begin moving those ideas and visions toward action..?  Hmmmm...  I'm setting up sample coaching calls for March...  Ready for a 45-minute test drive?  Let's set it up!  On the house, of course!

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Next issue of DadsNews: Thursday, March 9, 2006.  Think Snow!

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